Un comfortable

This is a public service announcement…and also a poem. 

He makes you uncomfortable
doesn’t he?
When he drools
and shakes
When he says something
with slurred speech
and he looks at you
expecting you to understand
So you nod and smile
That makes you uncomfortable
doesn’t it?

Well, when that happens, it makes him uncomfortable too
Oh I don’t mean the drooling and the shaking and the slurred speech
After 3 years, he is used to that
That’s his new normal.
What bothers him
is that it bothers you

He’s a smart man
He notices the difference
between a “nod and smile” of understanding
a “nod and smile” that says
“I have no effing clue what you said but I can’t be bothered to actually try to understand you.”
He notices the faces
of disgust you make when his drool drizzles
through his beard and pools in a wet stain on his shirt
He notices how people talk extra
slow and extra
loud and extra
peppy to him.
He notices how he eats
and how it draws attention;
he refuses to eat in public anymore.

He notices
and it makes him uncomfortable too
So, excuse me if I don’t give one flying fart how uncomfortable he makes you.
Being him makes him uncomfortable enough as it is.

Attention everybody
Start getting comfortable with being uncomfortable
Cuz my dad’s here
Get used to it.

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What do you do?

A few weeks ago, I wrote a poem for my Aunt Patti, who was fighting back at stage four metastasized cancer with kale and the sheer force of her indomitable will. Yesterday, at 4:05 pm, cancer won and we all lost. That poem a few weeks ago, I wrote for her and this poem I wrote today is for all of us who are left behind. 

There are no words
There are no words
What do you do
when her pain is over?
Are you relieved?
Are you devastated?

you are both
like me

Torn between love and despair
Between missing the sound of her voice
and knowing that now
for the first time
she can probably hear yours

Torn between
missing her
and loving her
between selfishness and selflessness

What do you do
when the earthquake hits?
What do you do when
the tectonic plate evaporates?

What do you do when she is gone?

What do you do?

I don’t know
It’s only been a day
I do know some things
I am supposed to
breathe and eat and drink water
I am supposed to
cry and yell and pray
I am supposed to
talk and hug and tell stories
I am supposed to love
I am certainly supposed to love
even if I don’t know how
even if I have forgotten what that word means
I am supposed to love and hug and cry and yell and pray and tell stories and drink water and talk and breathe

I should breathe
just breathe
just keep breathing.

Without Words

My aunt has cancer. It has metastasized and we don’t know how much longer she has to live. Last week, my mom and I went to visit her. This was the first time either of us had gotten to see her since she was diagnosed less than a year ago. It was a powerful, beautiful, wonderful, and painful experience. Most good things are.

I wrote this poem for her: 

There you are.

There you are.
Bones stripped of flesh
Like a plate of chicken wings, post Super Bowl.
You sit, infrared lamp on the tumor.

Smiling at me and eating kale

There you are.
How do I tell you:
How much I love you
How much you mean to me
How sad your imminent death makes me
How do I tell you:
How beautiful you are
How strong you are
How wondrous you are
How do I tell you these things
When I barely speak your language.

You are a small woman
With the spirit of a buffalo
And the heart of an elephant
You endure.
You remember.
You persist.
You care.

You are a force.

Not a tornado or an earthquake,
You. Are a tectonic plate.
You make the earth move
In our family, you are the earth.
You are steadily there. Always moving,
Shaping, pulling apart, drawing together.

You are a force of nature, a steady
enduring, elephantine force
You outlast. You always have

And yet here you are
Down to bones
And the cancer likes sugar
So you eat kale.

And I love you
And I miss you already
And I don’t know how to tell you that
Beyond with these few words
But words never seem like enough
They never seem like enough
And yet
They are what I have to give.

So here they are:
I love you, Aunt Patti.
And I will miss you when you are gone.
I miss you already.
And there are not enough words to say
And there never will be.


If you feel touched by this or want to help my aunt out, she has a Go Fund Me support page here: https://gofund.me/deafcancerjourney

Thanks for reading! -Veronica

To the ones before the blade

So I wrote this poem a few weeks ago, right after the Orlando shooting. I tried to get it published, but that didn’t happen. Hearing about Dallas today reminded me of it and reminded me of the sentiment this poem expresses. No one deserves to die. We are all equal in this. We are made for eternity. And any violent death is a senseless sad-soaked tragedy.  

To the ones before the blade:

When they described the shooting
in Orlando,
they said that you were
“mowed down.”

No person
should ever be the object
of such a phrase.
“Mowed down,”
a phrase we only use
in lawn care
and mass shootings.

Like blades of grass
before the spinning blade,
you were mowed down


No person should ever be the object of such a phrase.

Just Thinking


So maybe I overthink things. 

Some things, right?

Not all things. 

So how do I know which ones 

have been overthought?

which ones have been underthought?

and which ones have been thought about juuuuust right?

It seems to me like the safe bet, then

is to think about everything


a little




Just in case. 


Good does not appear
like a blossom overnight
Good is not a wave
that rushes into sight

Good consists of small things
Good happens slowly
Good is daily choices
Good is those times when you are alone and
the only one to hold you accountable
is you

Good happens quietly
Yes, good can move mountains
and occasionally it happens in spectacular fashion
but mostly good moves mountains
one shovel full of dirt
at a time


I haven’t written on here in some time and I am not 100% sure why I am writing on here now, but here it goes…

It has been a year, well I guess every year is…a year. There aren’t many other options. I have a lot to say, but rarely do I have something to say and the time or initiative to put it on here.

Today I have some of each, but not enough of both to write much. I did find this poem, though. I wrote it back in October and it applies quite well to my life right now. So here it is:


I will take each day
one page at a time
one line at a time
one word at a time

I will not let the next line
of dialogue
usurp this line of dialogue

What is to come
will come
what is now is what I
will know


and that is all
for now
One line at a time.